In the first installment of Small Penises – Finding Acceptance, we examined the prevalence of insecurities surrounding penis size and the personal journeys many have taken toward body acceptance. That article highlighted how societal pressures and unrealistic ideals impact millions of people worldwide who fall below the global average and emphasized the importance of open, honest conversations about these experiences.
In this second installment, we share advice from 90 participants in our anonymous survey who self-identify as having smaller-than-average penises. Their insights, personal strategies, and words of encouragement offer meaningful support for anyone grappling with body dysmorphia.
From practical tips to transformative mindset shifts, their advice reminds us all that confidence and connection matter more than our physical appearance. Whether you’re navigating your own journey toward acceptance or supporting someone who is, we hope this article provides perspective, comfort, and actionable steps.
The photos accompanying this article feature individuals proudly embracing their penises, with full consent of their photos being shared.
What Does Acceptance Look Like?
We figured if we’re giving tips to achieve acceptance, it’s probably helpful to provide a functional definition, so we pulled some of the responses from the survey that help illustrate what acceptance looked like for them.
Many survey participants emphasized the importance of seeing yourself clearly and appreciating what makes you unique:
“You’re thinking about your penis size more than anyone else. Stop chasing the illusion that you can convince people it’s something it’s not. Just be you.”
Self-acceptance also means moving away from self-criticism and toward a kinder, more compassionate view of yourself:
“Look in the mirror—that’s you. Without clothes, makeup, or filters. Accept that the small penis is yours, just like your eyes or your belly.”
“You can’t change it, so you might as well enjoy it.”
It doesn’t happen overnight, but it’s a practice worth cultivating. As one participant so beautifully put it:
“This life is too short to not walk in self-acceptance. You’ve always been enough.”
Understanding what self-acceptance looks like lays the groundwork for taking meaningful steps toward it. In the tips that follow, you’ll find actionable ways to shift your mindset, build confidence, and redefine your relationship with your body.
1. Zoom Out
Your penis size is just one part of who you are—not the whole story. Many participants emphasized the importance of stepping back and focusing on the bigger picture of life.
“Your penis size is the LAST thing you should be concerned about. There’s so much more to life than how big it is.”
Fixating on an unchangeable part of your anatomy drains mental energy—energy that could be directed toward more fulfilling and meaningful pursuits.
Instead of trying to force yourself to stop thinking about size, start by linking the goal of penis size acceptance to a larger, deeply personal aspiration, such as being more satisfied with your life or building deeper connections with others. This shift provides clarity and motivation to begin your journey.
For example, ask yourself:
- How would accepting this part of myself free me to focus on things I truly care about?
- How could self-acceptance improve my overall happiness or relationships?
When you frame acceptance as a stepping stone to a bigger, more meaningful goal, it becomes less about “letting go” and more about making room for growth and fulfillment.
2. Forget the Myths About Size
Society tells us that bigger is always better, but that’s just a story—not the full picture. Porn and media overrepresent large penises, creating a narrative that doesn’t reflect reality. Sure, some people prefer bigger penises, but plenty don’t care, and many even prefer smaller ones. The truth is, attraction is way more diverse than the story we’re told.
“Do not let insecurity get you. Lots of people out there love penises not only because they’re big but because they are penises. Having different shapes and forms is part of the sexual experience.”
Change your Frame of Reference
If this myth has you stuck, start changing the story you believe. Follow people or content that reflect size diversity, and remind yourself that porn isn’t real life. Surrounding yourself with realistic representations can help you see that diversity is natural—and desirable.
“Look at amateur porn of small dicked dudes on social media sites… and read the comments. You’ll soon realize there’s plenty of people who are very turned on by small dicks.”
Just Do It
One of the best ways to challenge these myths is to experience the reality of attraction for yourself. Many respondents reminded us that getting out there and having sex can be a powerful way to prove to yourself that you’re desirable.
“Have sex with other small dick guys. Look at small penis porn. If you’re a top, realize a lot of guys aren’t looking to be ripped apart by giant cocks and a lot actually like getting fucked by smaller dicks. I have a 5.5 inch pencil dick, and it gets so much attention at sex parties.”
“People are not thinking about your size. Having intercourse is an intimate experience, and any guy who complains is someone who’s not ready for that kind of intimacy.”
Attraction isn’t one-size-fits-all, and your worth isn’t tied to a number. When you stop believing the myths and start seeing the truth, it’s easier to accept yourself and focus on what makes you uniquely desirable. Give yourself permission to embrace your body and go after experiences that bring you joy and connection.
3. Find Community and Connection
Finding spaces where you feel seen and valued can transform your relationship with your body. Engaging with others who accept and celebrate diversity helps challenge distorted thoughts and fosters self-acceptance.
“Go to a nude beach or attend a naturist gathering. You’re guaranteed to see other small penises and realize how normal you are.”
Start with small steps, like joining online forums or body-positive communities. Gradually participating in events, such as a nudist group, can reduce anxiety and provide real-world evidence that most people don’t judge size as harshly as we judge ourselves.
“Joining a nudist group helped me see that people don’t care about your size. It’s only us that it bothers.”
Connecting with others who share similar experiences—whether in person or online—helps normalize diversity and break the isolation often tied to insecurity.
“There’s a whole community out there that can support you. Seek them out.”
When you embrace these connections, you not only build relationships but also take meaningful steps toward aligning with your values of self-acceptance and confidence.
4. Invest in Personal Growth
Healing is a process that often requires both inner work and external support. It’s about making choices that align with your values and building habits that foster self-acceptance.
“Therapy can help. A therapist who specializes in body dysmorphia will give you tools to handle these feelings.”
Therapy and guided support can provide techniques to challenge negative thought patterns, reframe insecurities, and develop healthier self-perceptions.
For those seeking structured support, Natural Pursuits founder Phillip Miner is launching a 6-week digital penis acceptance program in March. This course will offer practical activities, expert insights, and a supportive framework to guide you toward greater body confidence and self-acceptance. Sign up here to learn about the course when its ready to launch!
Whether through therapy, lifestyle changes, or joining a structured program, the key is to make intentional choices that align with your personal values and goals. Growth takes time, but every small step builds toward a larger transformation.
5. Celebrate Your Body
Your penis is part of you—unique and deserving of appreciation. Accepting this means embracing your body as it is and recognizing its value in ways that go beyond size.
“Every penis is valid. Hanging out with guys of all sizes helped me realize that variety is what makes sex and connection interesting.”
One way to foster this appreciation is by stepping outside your comfort zone. Spending time naked in safe, supportive environments—whether at home, in a naturist group, or even in a Zoom room—can help normalize your feelings about your body and promote acceptance.
“Spend time naked when you can. Whether at home, in a naturist group, or even in a Zoom room. It’s freeing, and you’ll start to feel more comfortable in your skin.”
These experiences can help you shift your focus away from judgment and toward connection. When you actively engage with your body in new and intentional ways, you challenge the negative narratives that may have taken root over time.
If thoughts like “My body isn’t enough” arise, try noticing them as just thoughts rather than absolute truths. Acknowledge their presence, but don’t let them define you. Instead, focus on the sensations of the moment—how your skin feels in the sun, the warmth of water, or the ease of movement.
Finally, lean into self-expression and individuality:
“Find a way to flaunt it. You’ll discover that what matters is how you use it, not how big it is.”
Celebrating your body doesn’t mean ignoring insecurities—it means seeing them in perspective and choosing to embrace yourself anyway. By creating space for acceptance and curiosity, you’ll strengthen your relationship with your body and open yourself to richer connections with others.
Closing Thoughts
As one participant eloquently put it:
“The best part of my penis is that it’s attached to me. I’m the value added.”
Your worth as a person is far greater than any one physical attribute. Your penis—no matter its size—is just one part of a much bigger, beautiful whole. It’s not about measuring up to unrealistic standards or trying to change what’s inherently you. It’s about embracing the fact that you are enough, exactly as you are.
For many, the journey toward self-acceptance begins with recognizing that the insecurities we hold are often magnified in our own minds. As one participant noted, “You’re thinking about your penis size more than anyone else.” It’s liberating to realize that the weight of judgment is usually self-imposed—and even more liberating to let it go.
Finally, self-acceptance doesn’t mean you have to ignore your insecurities. It means facing them with honesty and courage. It’s a practice—a series of small steps, like spending time naked in safe spaces, talking about your feelings with others, or simply standing in front of a mirror and acknowledging your reflection without judgment.
When you accept yourself, you not only free yourself from unnecessary shame, but you also open yourself up to deeper connections with others. Because ultimately, what matters most is not the size of any one part of you, but the fullness of the life you live and the love you give and receive.
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